Federico Di Marco - Personal advice while applying for working at international organizations (fededim.github.io)

I’m a senior software engineer, born in Genova, Italy, with a master degree in computer science, in the second half of his forties.

Started using a computer at six years, gone through logo, basic, assembly, C/C++, java and finally to .NET and .NET core. Proficient also in databases, especially Sql Server and reporting. Let’s say I have also some experience on security but mainly in the past, now things have become much more difficult and I do not have too much time to keep me updated, but sometimes I am still kicking in.

Fan of videogames, technologies, motorbikes, travelling and comedy (click my name above for my main page).

Famous quotes:

• "No one can imagine how cruel an entire country comes to be when it targets someone, making up stories, going so far as to slander, trampling on the most basic rules of civilized living." (Gaetano Afeltra, an italian journalist and writer).

Introduction

During life you may be applying for vacancies at international government organizations (European community, United Nations, NATO, etc.) and I would like to point out some hints for not having potential unpredictable issues jeopardizing your career and even your life as it happened to my person.

Perhaps if you are thinking of working in such vacancies you are for sure a well above average person or even a top performer among your peers who has been successful in studies (or languages) and who wants to put your skills at the service of a greater cause obtaining at the same a high rewarding job. You are also probably a person who likes competition because you want to prove yourself how you rank among your international peers. Unluckily people who are above average in studies (and I put myself among these) are somewhat naive: they spend their time studying or working hard, often helping others without requiring anything back, but at the same without thinking that envy is omnipresent and, remember, envy creates silent enemies, sometimes even deadly. Yes, deadly, e.g. persons who suffer from the success of others and want at all cost to curb or even destroy it because according to their brain they are better than you (maybe just for the physical appearance) and they have to prove it to others.

Many years ago I started applying for vacancies at European Commission and I was even summoned for interviews a few times (I am including a screenshot from the EPSO website - the European personnel selection office) and I inadvertently talked about these interviews to my "friends" and my former university alumni without boasting and above all without thinking of someone could be plotting against me and my career. You never know what envy can push to do to those who feel it, it is even one of the main reasons why murders are committed (and if I am allowed I would say that story is almost like it).

In particular after some time I applied to one vacancy as a software engineer which required a security clearance, an unknown word to me at that time and even still "blurry" today which fundamentally "warranted" the fact that the candidate was "somewhat trustable" in giving him the access to classified information. It is obviously an undocumented procedure to most of people; as far as I was able to gather reading some newspaper articles a security clearance involves a background check (criminal records at least but probably also other checks) from the national secret service about you, your parents, your close relatives and friends. Should something be found not to be "right", the clearance procedure would have ended just by "labelling" the person "not suitable" without any "consequence" on him or his family (as a sad note of my family in '80s my father had a car accident in which a person died and he was sentenced to misdemeanour involuntary vehicular manslaughter).

Below I'll get straight to the heart of the matter giving my advices when applying for working at international organizations, if you wish to get an insight about the strange and troublesome facts which persuaded me to create this webpage and changed permanently my view towards friendship, you can also read the final section.

Personal advices while applying for working at international organizations

Leaving my personal misadventure apart the advices I would like to give to those applying for international organizations are:

• Do not talk with anyone else except your family that you are applying such positions: you never know your friends or with whom they can be related. As a matter-of-fact, the detectives told me once that often the fathers of future brides ask for background checks on the to-be husbands and sometimes they even find something unwelcome which make the marriage to be cancelled.
• Do not trust any new acquaintances or friends that you knew or got introduced after starting to apply for such positions
• Remember that performing better than others creates for sure envy in some of your acquaintances and envy creates silent enemies, sometimes even deadly.

Strange facts which affected my life and changed permanently my view towards friendship

I was on a holiday in US when I received a summon for the interview and just a week before my interview I was introduced by Fabrizio Rizza, a Calabrese former university alumni, friend at that time, to two of his friends, Marco Marocchi and Sebastiano Ceraudo, which revealed to be easy-going and sociable at the beginning and even introduced me some women external to my circle of friends, but revealed then very "felonious" after some time. As a side note this Calabrese was introduced to me by another former university alumni Paolo Dellepiane, who in turn was introduced to me by a former my same high-school student Luigi Chirico, who started studying computer science at the university like us, but then left to become a policeman. Paolo Dellepiane at high-school while attending the classical liceum he studied also musical instruments at conservatory.

At the same time, Stefania Serra, a female friend of a former close friend of family Roberto Bazzoni introduced me two new women, Chiara Parodi and Paola Mazzarello. Chiara Parodi was working as a business analyst in Verona, a city little less than 300 kms away from Genova,and she was coming back to Genova on weekends; her best friend was Paola Mazzarello, who at that time relocated back to Genova after having worked for some years in Alessandria. I knew very little about them (I do remember that Paola Mazzarello had a brother which I only saw once), unluckily they revealed troublesome after some time and Chiara Parodi later even married Mr. Ceraudo. To make a long story short all the situation degenerated after a holiday to Canary Island - Gran Canaria organized by Mr. Marocchi with Mr. Ceraudo, his girlfriend Susanna Giardina, her cousin Maria De Pippo from Turin and her boyfriend Marco Francavilla. Nothing particular happened as far as I can remember on that holiday except that one night I got drunk after being offered some drinks and Maria De Pippo kept asking sneakily repeatedly if I could be a non-heterosexual, making me wonder if her husband maybe practised triolism or was a non-heterosexual looking for fun. Anyway, even after cutting all them off after that holiday (I still have the doubt whether they went again to Canary Island by themselves later), I experienced troubles not only with the Calabrese Rizza and his other friends, but also with my historical circle of friends without being given any reason. At that time I was employed at Altran Italia, a multinational French consulting company, I was hired by the director Giorgo Dabbene from Turin, initially in Milan HQ under the "pleasure" of the manager Alessandro Zamboni and the functional analyst Mariafrancesca Iolo, then I requested to be moved back to Genova, under the "pleasure" of the manager Emanuele Castagno working as a consultant at Ericsson after some time in the local branch; one brother of Mr. Rizza had been working there for years and I experienced some serious troubles also there, which forced me to resign. As a sad fact the secretary of Genova branch of Altran Valeria Bruzzone, who studied as psychologist, with whom I and other co-workers used to have lunch died mysteriously at her home in her early thirties, only two weeks after I went to a solo aperitif with her (at that time she had recently broken up with her historical boyfriend, moreover at the aperitif in an another table there was also Lorena Piloro a former girlfriend of my family friend Roberto Bazzoni, for all the weird or odd things that happened to me I even suspected that I had been investigated as a suspect for her strange death). To try to understand what happened I had to hire some private detectives (ex-policeman) and I found some "worrying" facts, the most important of which are:

• Mr. Ceraudo had a criminal record and he has origins from a Calabrese town called Petilia Policastro where this surname is notorious for being a 'Ndrangheta clan: the referenced article is published on "Il corriere della Sera", the most read newspaper in Italy and talks about a series of surnames like the Coscos, the Carvellis, the Comberiatis, the Toscanos and the Ceraudos who were all originating from Petilia Policastro and involved in criminal activities of 'Ndrangheta. Moreover Mr. Ceraudo has a cousin in Turin called Carvelli. Honestly, I would like to have known all these facts before going to such holiday, because I was applying for positions at international organizations and I would have avoided at all cost of staying in a hotel room with anyone with criminal records (I do not know if he is non heterosexual, as far as I can remember and I know I was not harassed at all, but obviously to defend his friends Rizza and Marocchi he could have done anything to me or my family). Probably the former Calabrese university alumni Rizza who introduced him to me knew something about these facts and did it on purpose. Rizza has two brothers, one working in Ericsson at my hometown Genova and another working in Zurich, Switzerland.
• Mr. Marocchi had such a vivid interest in understanding if I was a non-heterosexual with his future brother-in-law Francavilla up to the point of staging it (for all the countless times he insisted on this matter I even felt that he wanted to rape me or to be raped by someone else) : moreover, his wife to-be Maria De Pippo managed a historical dance school called BIT (Balletto Impronta Torino) while Marco Francavilla worked for the Mediabanca investement bank. If you Google for their surnames it comes out some unwelcomed articles:
  • An article from the local mostly read Turin newspaper La Stampa about a woman surnamed De Pippo who was involved in the massacre of Caselle (a town nearby Turin)
  • An article from the local Apulia newspaper about a local clan named "Sinisi-Francavilla" active in the city of Foggia
  • Turin has always been historically a city with a lot of "calabrese activities": the same Roberto Saviano, author of Gomorra's book, entitled Turin as the largest city in "Calabria". As matter of fact, in 2023 the cooperative managing the bar of the courthouse of Turin was closed due to 'Ndrangheta involvement.
  • Marco Francavilla plays with an italian rock band called Progetto Luna (in English "Aiming at the Moon"): coincidentally Luna (which in Italian means "moon") is also the second name of my first girlfriend which I happened to discover to be died very young in her early thirties. Moreover, they seem to have composed the soundtrack of a non-heterosexual online fiction called G&T (by Francesco D'Alessio e Matteo Rocchi). Their band also released at that time an album called strangely "Ogni tanto sento le voci" (in English "Every now and then I hear voices")
• Mr. Marocchi tried extensively to make me date of his female friend called Claudia Rovani, a surname originating from Argentina and Brasil. Mr. Rizza once warned me against her (he literally said "there's something about her that I just don't like I really don't like"), I can remember she was very very thin and she studied as a psychologist in Florence, Tuscany. At the time I was introduced to her, she dated officially Fabio Risso, who managed a bar in my home town called "A Due Passi Dal Mare" with an Albanese business partner (I do not remember his name), and she was a close friend of Stefano Toscanini. I can't say anything against her, at least for what I know and the times I met her, I mean to defend her close friend Marocchi she could even have made up or staged any slander about me or my family; morever she had in the past an affair with Mr. Marocchi. As a curios fact Mr. Marocchi suggested a few times sneakily to go on holiday in Argentina during our Italian summer vacation, to which I replied funnily without thinking badly at that time that it was winter there, so it was cold and I didn't feel like go skiing. As a matter of fact, my family has some relatives in Argentina, but I have only seen a few of them once in my whole life, though we have been recently keeping the contact on the phone every now and then.
• Mr. Marocchi's best friend is called Federico Escobar, quite a "worrying" surname, he had Chilean origins and relatives from Campania, he lived in Rapallo, the same town where my brother and his wife were living at the time of the facts, even though I can't say anything against him, at least for what I know and the few times I met him (same note as Rovani's apply). He had an affair with Claudia Bonifazio, a woman related to Sebastiano Ceraudo's first wife. He had just left London where he was working as a cook when he was introduced to me and used to dance salsa and bachata like me, though I met him only twice in the dancefloors of my city. I used to attend salsa and bachata classes at Victor Latino club in Genova (now it is called Caribe), my main teachers were Amelia De Martis and Mauricio Hernandez (they were former italian national champions in a category), I still have the doubt whether anyone of my club knew Mrs. Maria De Pippo or any of her acquaintances. Amelia De Martis had an affair with a calabrian Alessandro Sgambelluri, a close friend of my former best friend Marco Landa and also a friend of mine for a period of my life.
• The holiday to Playa Des Ingles, Gran Canaria was suggested and organized two months before by Mr. Marocchi just after having passed a weekend in Turin, where I, Mr. Ceraudo and Federico Escobar went to pay a visit to Mr. Marocchi who, though from Genova, was working there and had an employer-paid house where I slept with him and Mr. Escobar (Mr. Ceraudo on that night went sleeping to the house of his cousin Mrs. Rosina Carvelli). Of that weekend, the only one I have been in Turin in my life, I can't say anything except that we went to a music club in the Murazzi area along the Po river where nothing unusual happened and later we went to have breakfast in a very big bar (I do not remember their names). The only fact worth of attention was that while talking Mr. Escobar suggested abruptly to forget about Mrs. Claudia Rovani, which I did also for other reasons in the following weeks. I can't say if Mrs. Maria De Pippo or Mr. Marco Francavilla or any of their acquaintances were with us at the music club or at the bar we had breakfast because on that weekend they were unavailable and Mr. Marocchi only introduced them to me the same day we were leaving from the airport (I met them directly at the gate because we flew from Pisa (in Tuscany) airport and they arrived very late from Turin stating they had been stuck in the traffic, also the choice of Mr. Marocchi of departing from Pisa airport is somewhat debatable, for sure Milan Malpensa would have been a better choice for them).
• My former close friend of family Roberto Bazzoni just a month after my first interview in international organizations tried to kiss me out of blue in the middle of party and made us take an artistic snapshot of the scene by a female photographer friend of him Stefania Serra, probably accomplice of him minimising it was a joke (by the way Mr.Bazzoni works as an expropriator consultant for the courthouse and moreover he even dated female judges, ironically I can't think of a better "alibi" for a suspected non-heterosexual; moreover the same judge who had dated Mr. Bazzoni dated also later Mirko Boero, a friend and a former classmate of Paolo Landa, the twin brother of my former best friend Marco Landa, as a curios fact both Marco Landa and Mirko Boero have dated South African women, not so common in Genova).
• Mr. Bazzoni and Mr. Rizza had a common friend originating from Campania, called Antimo Verde. Unluckily Verde is also a notorious surname from a Camorra clan historically active in Sant'Antimo, a city near Naples.
• The wife of my brother (so my sister-in-law) Roberta Grillo is a close friend of Mr. Bazzoni and he was the one who actually introduced her to him. Since as far as I can understand from the events that Mr. Bazzoni is most likely a non-heterosexual, being a close friend also of my brother, I even considered that all this story could be a clever scam if my brother is or has been a non-heterosexual, but I was never said anything either from him or from my family or from my other close relatives or friends. What I fear the most is that due to the high presence of Calabrians among my circle of friends, criminals might have taken it out on my family by having them raped (to stage someone of them was non-heterosexual, in this was they would have turned me into a scammer) or forced to commit some serious crime.
• Many of my historical circles of friends had relatives from Calabria and Campania and in particular my former best friend Marco Landa had relatives both from Calabria (their surname is Raschella) and Foggia in Apulia and had a sister who used to play soccer; he has worked for many years abroad on cruise ships for Carnival Cruise Line as a machine officer. For sure some of my former friends were rumoured to be non-heterosexual (my former best friend's brother Paolo Landa was one of these, by the way like Luigi Chirico he started studying computer science at my university, but he then left after a year for studying economy), but obviously I never asked or cared (I am heterosexual, obviously I began to care when I was slandered as one of them and suffered an undeserved damage as a consequence) and I was never informed too. I discovered that a common "friend", Adelmo Bucci, who became a general practitioner has worked with some unprincipled non-heterosexual doctors, whom in the past have been rumoured to have exercised conversion therapies into non-heterosexuals. Moreover there were common female doctor friends between Stefania Serra and Adelmo Bucci who dated some policemen I did not know; they were supposed to be friends of the brother of Marco Pallavicino, another policeman working in Turin. There was also a common friend between Marocchi and Ceraudo and the historical circle of my friends, a woman called Valentina Firpo, friend also of one my best childhood friends Alessandro Rabbia who in turn is also the cousin of Marco Pallavicino. Sometime after these events, a woman posted a picture on her Facebook wall a picture of a group of youngsters where two of them seemed to be Marco Pallavicino and Marco Francavilla, yet no one I knew confirmed or denied this; any as a matter-of-fact Marco Pallavicino studied at university in Turin for some years.
• Another manager of the Genova branch of Altran Matteo Gandetto was a friend of Marco Pallavicino (they were born and have lived for several years in Gavi, a town 60 kms from Genova known for its white wine). Matteo Monteverde was another close friend of Marco Pallavicino who studied with him in Turin, he had a seaside house in Celle Ligure where I went a few times for some parties during which there were also some of their friends from Turin which however I can barely remember and I do not know if they know also Marco Francavilla or his fiancee or some of their friends.
• Between my former best friend Marco Landa and Sebastiano Ceraudo/Marco Marocchi there was a common acquaintance called Claudio nicknamed "Pacio" (or maybe it is his surname I do not know I saw him very few times), my former best friend and he worked at that time in the same company, at Wärtsilä in Genoa.
• Seven months after the Canary Island "holiday" I went with my parents to my father's second home in Abruzzi (I hadn't been there for ten years) a childhood friend of mine Federico Di Fonso from Pescara after going back home made a funny post on Facebook on another childhood friend Fabio Veno from Naples that there was a bender at our table made up by me, the same Fabio Veno and Marco Ferretti with his sister again from Naples (these last two were more acquaintances for me than friends and they were more connected to Fabio Veno). The next day I asked him directly who he was referring to, but I was never given an answer. Fabrizio Rizza, two months before I went back to Abruzzi, broke with his historical girlfriend for another women living in Milan, who was originally from Pescara and just two weeks before this fact they came on holiday in the same Pescara. At the end of that summer Rizza went back again with his historical girlfriend, sincerely behaving in this way made him the number one suspect besides Mr. Marocchi and Mr. Bazzoni, but unluckily the brain of the judge didn't see any crime.
• Three weeks before the Canary Island "holiday" I went for New Year’s Eve to Sharm El Sheik, Egypt with Mr. Marocchi where we met four women from Campania: Asia Santoro, Stefania Grimaldi - these two were a little bit upset with their boyfriends because they preferred to celebrate New Year’s Eve separately from them in another place - plus two sisters Valeria and Fabiana. Nothing unusual happened, except a funny breakfast after one night I went to bed early because I was ill and I left Mr. Marocchi with them, the women were making fun of Mr. Marocchi who should eat more pigeon (as far as I was told pigeon in the local culture is an aphrodisiac food). Anyway, I still wonder if Fabio Veno and Marco Ferretti knew any of them.
• Among my circle of friends I discovered that at least six of them were also orphans.
• I do not even know why the person whom I believed to be "trusted" friends turned against me without any reason (apart from the potential envy, I still wonder if some of them could be also incognito non-heterosexuals) or what my former close friend of family did with the picture he made me take, I'll still have the doubt he did it for some ignoble purpose which could have endangered me or my family. I noticed that my mother from time to time was very concerned in particular with our sister-in-law without any apparent reason and a couple of times I would even say frightened, but she always denied everything when I asked, I always suspected that an extortion could have been carried out to my family, maybe using some other staged pictures I could have been made while hanging out with the forementioned persons, the worst thing that my mom said to me once was a sentence that no son should ever hear in his life "our family is going to become extinct"). Sometimes I even feared that I or my family have become the target of human trafficking organization for other reason I do not want to tell. Anyway I filed a complaint against all them, but it was dismissed (as a curious note the judicial police who managed the complaint had another notorious calabrese surname Mancuso and news about unprincipled lawyers do exist, by the way Lamberti, Costa and Di Rella are lawyers from my city that I wouldn't recommend at all).
• In 2023 I relocated near the city of Varese close to the border between Italy and Switzerland under the advice of Alfredo Paolillo (a former alumni of my university though a close friend of Rizza) in order to get a better salary (see my other page about working in Switzerland as cross-border worker) with the aim of starting a lawsuit against Genova's courthouse for the slanderous management of my initial lawsuit. But I would say I fell from the frying pan into the fire, I was unwelcomed and defamed also here for no reason. As a matter-of-fact I discovered that Switzerland is one of the countries with the highest proportion of declared LBGT population (around 13%) (and also the close bordering italian cities), in particular in some of the companies where I have worked there was a fair share of non-heterosexual white-collars (as a curious fact one of these companies provides consultants to the Swiss company where Alfredo Paolillo was working as a Program Manager and also some co-workers worked for Accenture in Milan, where one of the brothers of Rizza worked for some years after going back to Zurich). I had been in the past a salsa dancer and I started again going dancing in the half of 2024 in one of the biggest clubs in Milan, the Zoo club, but also there I was mistreated.

  For sure LBGT community has it in for me and I have no clue why except that maybe some of my former acquaintances were not heterosexuals and had it in for me (I underline I have never and I'll never go with anyone else than natural women) or for the sake of argument they joined to defend one of those I sued because I am a heterosexual who started a lawsuit against some suspected non-heterosexuals.

  Moreover what scares me is the fact that historically in the world there has been a connection between mobsters and LBGT businesses because they usually overcharge their services and a keen interest in money is statistically a cornerstone in LBGT community and also the main goal of mobsters (though some mobsters also engaged in same-sex activity, you can check this book on Amazon on the subject). Even the same famous Roberto Saviano in his book Gomorrah mentioned that mobsters usually put in charge non-heterosexual persons in order to suffers less troubles due to affairs with women. And as a matter-of-fact Mr. Marocchi tried many times to make us hang out in LBGT bars with the "justification" that a lot of women used to go there, but after three times I argued with him that I wouldn't follow anymore in such places (unluckily this was a red flag which I naively ignored and I blame myself for).